Excerpted from the parenting Book written by
Donald L. Gandy
Beginning the Process
Like planting a tree so it will grow,
You plant your child so she will go
In a right direction to survive life best.
God will direct her and do the rest.
Consider what you eat and consider lifestyle
To prepare your body for the expected child.
Things ingested must be as healthy as can be
So the baby may be problem and illness free.
A baby is like a sapling; a child is like a tree, bend it in
The right direction and it will be what it’s supposed to be.
Can children really know what to do or make a better
Decision than you? I don’t think so; that’s why you’re there
To guide them through their every snare.
It takes more than the words “I care”; it takes real action
And some prayer. It requires giving what you can’t spare.
And more than that, you must be there.
Don’t sit and watch the clouds go by and never even fret or sigh
About your child you should inquire; seek and Search and even pry.
If there is unity between mom and dad in raising the child
They will be glad they worked as a team so she would be better
If she follows both their rules to the letter.
You should stop and think for awhile and you will realize
You have a child to take care of beside your wife. You
Must do it; whatever the strife.
Would you want your child to be a thief; a doctor, lawyer or
Native American Chief? You can give him a start if you only
Try to set good examples for him to live by. He also may want
To be just like you-not do what you say but do what you do.
We must raise our children to be independent-not lean on us
To thrive. If we don’t do this we will be selfish and will not
Have prepared them to survive. So push them away at some
Point even if at times you’re very must be blunt.
What is it for?
Is it for the child or is it for you to accomplish the things
You could not do? Or are you one of those parents who
Tries to live your life through your child’s eyes? Your child
May think you are a “Rock of Gibraltar”. She thinks you
Can’t stumble, fall or falter. She may not realize the things
You can’t do. You’re only a person-you’re vulnerable to.
So don’t make her believe you always can, because you’re
Only human-you’re not superman.
Why would you buy her such a toy; to enhance her life or
Bring her joy? I think it will throw her out of whack and
Make you wish you could take it back. You might be your
Child’s savior if you condemn her wrong behavior. It does
Not matter that she is grown and living her life on her own.
You can take these words of advice from a sage, that a
Course can be changed at any age. You can put a child
Back on track if you don’t allow her too much slack.
Teach her and nurture her and then let go of the hand
Of your child so she can grow. Let her be independent
And survive on her own against life’s tests that are often
Not known. But keep your arms open she may need an
Embrace after getting weary from running life’s race.
It’s not a storm; it’s just a drizzle. It’s not the steak; it’s
Just the sizzle. The joy of toys will sometimes fizzle, so
Be certain it’s the steak and not the sizzle.